Consent is the most important guiding rule of sexual activity between people. If both parties have not enthusiastically said yes, then someone may have been violated.
We have included a quiz to assist you in identifying any concerning sexual experiences:
If you answered “Yes” to one or more of the questions, you may have been sexually assaulted.
This quiz was developed by the Women Helping Women and reprinted with their permission.
If you have been sexually assaulted or abused by a friend, acquaintance, family member, or stranger nothing you could have said or done would have ever given someone the right to do that to you. Some individuals have been concerned with being drugged or coerced to drink alcohol; it was not your fault – no matter what.
Some people who have been sexually assaulted feel they should have struggled more or done something to prevent the assault. But consent to sexual contact is based on choice and equal power. If you can’t say no comfortably, then yes has no meaning.
Both males and females can be sexually assaulted or abused, and both are served at CVIC. We are here to listen, believe you, and provide options for your safety and well-being. There is hope. CVIC has trained staff that can assist you (you don’t have to share your name) in providing a listening ear and connect you to additional services to help you cope. If it seems too scary to connect with someone locally, reaching out for help can be as easy as sending a text or chatting online with a reliable source.