Acts of domestic violence are learned behaviors and, as such, can be unlearned. It may take courage for the abusive individual to reach out for help, but help is available. One of the first steps an abuser can take is not to blame the person s/he is hurting, to understand the impact on their family and to attend a certified offender treatment program that teaches about healthy relationships. Anger management, domestic violence online courses and marriage counseling are not recommended. For help, please call 701-746-0405 and ask to speak to staff in the New Choices Program.