Acts of domestic violence are learned behaviors and, as such, can be unlearned. It may take courage for a person who uses abuse in a relationship to reach out for help, but help is available. One of the first steps is to avoid blaming the person who has been hurt. It is important to understand the impact on your partner and family and to attend a certified offender program that teaches about healthy relationships. Anger management, domestic violence online courses and marriage counseling are not recommended. For help, please call 701-746-0405 and ask to speak to staff in the New Choices Program.